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A Mother’s Heyday

Mother’s Heyday is what I am experiencing NOW after the storm…

Boy I know it  is difficult to be  a mom – a Mother’s heyday is in – but these last few days have been exceedingly difficult!!

I have my eldest son going off to university (of sorts), my eldest girl off to high school (new flat) and the young boy doing his ‘high school diploma’ this year and the youngest doing well just ploughing on through!!

A Mother’s Heyday

And god am I a proud MOTHER §

Have you ever had things happen to you, dear woman – giver of life, beings of all knowledge, so much more powerful than men – with all due respect.  So have you had things thrown in your face that were totally in your control, that were totally your own doing but you just were not xxx  ready YET?  xxx can mean financially, socially, educationally, it can mean a whole load of things that resignate with you now. For as I recall and I do not mean to be disrespectful to Mothers who have been there before me, but I feel sometimes very strong and sometimes so completely hopelessly lost!

A Mother’s Heyday sure where oh where is the manual? Please can you hand it down? I have now one 17 year old who is so LOGICAL minded, (so he thinketh!!!!!), that it is impossible to make him see sence- in my own logical way of thinking!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A Mother’s Heyday is when she can relate to her child.

But generally she can and she intrinsically KNOWS what is right for that particular child and what is inherantly wrong. How do we get this across to them is the wisdom of being a MUM – having a heyday.

A Mother’s Heyday?

This is due to hard labour (no pun intended). But personally I get the feeling that men and women are very different, for example the woman gets to go through all the emotional ‘transformations of the child:

  • Baby – mother dependant – breastfeeding
  • child – early schooling (kindergarden)  – mother getting her wings out
  • child – middle schooling (elementary) – mother getting her wing span
  • young adolescence – middle schooling (french = college, american = high school) – pecking order with the adults
  • full frontal adolescence – final schooling -( french Lycée, american = high school?) – child almost an adult here and very difficult to contain
  • Young adulthood – university / prepschools – child just financially dependant !!!

With my eldest child I personally am in the “young adulthood” bar the fact that this child is what is diagnosed as ‘super-intelligent’ and that this has been a handicap of sorts for me (just now look financially he is too young to apply for a loan at 2% so we (the parents) had to apply for an ordinary loan at 8% to pay his fees….)  But I digress…

A Mother’s heyday is when she pulls off all the emotional stuns and the child is not only in safty but also happy!!!

The father has to provide the financial end of the ‘story’!!!!

A Mother’s Heyday

Any day she can have the joy of seeing her work rewarded and generally it is every day.  Some times it is a little tricky, is it not dear? but what does it matter what she goes through as long as the end result is that the child is well behaved, with values and morals and is happy?

I am the luckiest of Mothers as I get to work from home with all that it carries with it – the pay check? well never ever a fixed amount at the end of the month, for sure(in the beginning!! ;)) and our role is it not to put our flesh and blood into the world with the best attributes? For me attributes are not having the latest clothes etc for the girls, nor have the latest Warhammer deck etc but to have the best education possible from le lycée onwards that’s just before high school.

A Mother’s heyday is being there for her kids, being there when they need to rush off to the football match, get taken to the gym….and this is where I prone ‘Work form Home’ is the best, never oh never could I have taken my kids to where they are nowwithout it.

A Mother’s Heyday

This is when she has been threw hell and back with the child intack …………..

The father well he just foots the bill…

I know this is not a given thing neither but hey that’s not too emotional now is it???

A Mother’s Heyday is when she can help other Mothers through the “rough patches too” come and join me here and let’s get the party going.

My Girl Left Aknockin’.

Someone suggested we write a post this weekend on our favorite thing.

Just writing that has the Mary Poppins song come into play…’When the dog bites, when the bee stings, I simply remember a few of my favorite things and then I don’t feel so bad’…
Someone said to me today that I live life at 100%. This is so true I am a whole person (now I have to apologies here as there will be some franglais in all my works! So just bear with me on this as there is no way I can tell which is which or rather I forget which is what!) Thus a whole person is une personne entiere and that is just that a person whole. That means that I live life at 100km/hr, that my emotions are 100%, my work ethics are very high, that I thought just 2 children was too easy, that’s why I have 4 now! That my eating habits are very high too, that I am a very “strict” mother – so I am told, not only by my children but by well to do Mums, but with the village elders we just share the same views ‘It is normal for children to say a minimum of 4 words ‘hello’, ‘goodbye’, ‘please’, ‘thankyou’.
This conversation came about as I am always crying, tissue in hand – I’ll elaborate here! When the children are singing a song on stage, I am the only mum with a tear or 2, when something emotional is happening I will cry – generally to do with the children. Oh well I’ll tell you the story as I found it so beautiful…My youngest child, Zelie, decided to go to the “Sunday school” teachings last year and got very interested in Jesus Christ and God. So this being her 2nd year she asked to be baptized. Today at church I learned that next Sunday she is going to have to ask. hmm and could you elaborate on that please? ‘Yes, Zelie will be outside the church and will knock at the door. The Priest will then allow her in and this way she has asked to be baptized.’ It was upon hearing this and seeing that for little Zelie how big it would be for her, to knock on the huge church door, whilst everyone is inside was just soooo beautiful for me that yes I cried!
It is during these moments in life, where the emotions just grab me somewhere that I cannot name, that I burst literally – like a dam. Now don’t get me wrong I am not a person when people look at me it, say ‘oh yes she’s gonna cry at whatever I say! So best be careful!’ So they are always very surprised when the dam bursts because it is so unlike me! But I also get the feeling that they are either sacred of such emotions or envious.
But living life to the fullest means that every day is a new day and every day a new beginning, when I first moved to Paris my friends would get quite fed up ‘Oh Catherine it’s just another day’ they would rant as I would marvel at the fact ‘Hey look the sky is blue!!’ For they knew I came from London and there the sky is too often grey, drizzly. But you don’t notice this until you leave the Island! My husband sometimes gets exasperated ‘You said that yesterday!’ and I truly do not recall and if I did the emotions were different, the sky a different colour blue…
What is good about this is that even if I really did something silly & stupid the previous day I now look forwards to what life will unleash on me today, what is in store now?

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