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Fear – new year, new perspectives


New Year, New Perspectives

Fear let’s pass that effing votex and enjoy the ride!

To pass through your fear you must first become aware of it

you must know how to navigate and most important

you must surpass it

so what is fear for you?

how would you define it

one definition is “an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.”

So when we are with our fears that please are real for us at the time, are they really caused by the imminent danger of death by a wild animal, run over by a bus…

So let it rip, let it soar, let fear in and that way you can soar you can ride the wave and above.


Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious?

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious?

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious?

Today I realised the full meaning of this ‘dicton’ so I will demonstrate my newly found wisdom with my story and see how it can relate to your own life – Ok? Here we go…

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious – Contact phase

Scrolling down on Facebook late in the evening, damn it – I’ve caught the bug of doing this before bed – hmm not a good sign – that’s my scheduled reading time. Ponder on this for a second

Anyway, I saw a micro class of a person I follow and respect deeply, on a topic that as I read it speaks to my gut – direct line – so I book I am going! Do you have the direct to gut line open? You know sometimes you are just going about your business, let’s stay on Facebook for now, and either someone sends you a messenger or you see their post but you get that feeling deep deep down of ‘Oh watch out’, non trust, hairs on the back of the neck dressing up like a panther ready to pounce… Or you get the instant trust feeling – why? How? That you do not know but you have a gut feeling. Trust me follow it – it is like a direct line into your soul – but that’s a whole other story 😉

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious – The set up phase

I decide that this topic can be very beneficial to me so tis a sit down, pen and paper note taking session – need to be at a desk/table – ok so in my schedule I can do this before and that has to move to there… I have this digital life and calendar that I may move around to my wish – along with some imperatives like school times, some clients, face to fact time, but the rest is my time to manage – whether I research client keywords at 10 am or 10:30 makes no real difference!! So I am lucky that way – some sleepless nights and that’s my choice too!

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious – The now phase

So there am I sitting with my pen and paper logging onto Facebook and whilst the class is going start I’ll just reply to this, write a quick comment here…. Awaiting for Facebook to tell me the class is live NOW… No happening – panic starts to creep in – and there am I clicking everywhere so as to find this class…. Pro page, perso page, website – no let’s focus Cat! Calm, breathe….in – out…

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious – The Realisation Phase

As I am clicking to my calendar – is there no link? Back to the pro-page oh and I got everything ready on time!!! Here I am in real panic that I am “MISSING OUT” for sure on the best class yet! Breathe Cat, breathe…

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious – The OMG Phase

🤭OHO look at the date – it’s in 2 weeks – dunce!!!

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious – The Integration Phase

I quickly write a post slow and easy it ends and instead of posting it I write an article for better referencing and re-reading! Because with slow and easy comes fast and furious – what this now means for me is that –
Slow and Easy:
had I taken my time to properly read the whole post…
had I noted in my paper agenda…
had I not just added it quickly on my phone….

I would not have lived
Fast & Furious:
the clicking around searching for info…
the panic that grows with time….
the added stress on my body…. !!!
thus making me furious to varying degrees (here I am at my desk, were I frantically looking for a parking space, running from the bus – stress is higher right?!)

Slow and Easy, Fast & Furious – The Phase

Learn from my mistakes and let’s live slow and easy as opposed to fast and furious!

When the Pope does a Ted Talk

This is the transcript for you in English – should you want it in another language please go here

0:11[His Holiness Pope Francis Filmed in Vatican City First shown at TED2017]

0:15Good evening – or, good morning, I am not sure what time it is there. Regardless of the hour, I am thrilled to be participating in your conference. I very much like its title – “The Future You” – because, while looking at tomorrow, it invites us to open a dialogue today, to look at the future through a “you.” “The Future You:” the future is made of yous, it is made of encounters, because life flows through our relations with others. Quite a few years of life have strengthened my conviction that each and everyone’s existence is deeply tied to that of others: life is not time merely passing by, life is about interactions.

1:27As I meet, or lend an ear to those who are sick, to the migrants who face terrible hardships in search of a brighter future, to prison inmates who carry a hell of pain inside their hearts, and to those, many of them young, who cannot find a job, I often find myself wondering: “Why them and not me?” I, myself, was born in a family of migrants; my father, my grandparents, like many other Italians, left for Argentina and met the fate of those who are left with nothing. I could have very well ended up among today’s “discarded” people. And that’s why I always ask myself, deep in my heart: “Why them and not me?”

2:35First and foremost, I would love it if this meeting could help to remind us that we all need each other, none of us is an island, an autonomous and independent “I,” separated from the other, and we can only build the future by standing together, including everyone. We don’t think about it often, but everything is connected, and we need to restore our connections to a healthy state. Even the harsh judgment I hold in my heart against my brother or my sister, the open wound that was never cured, the offense that was never forgiven, the rancor that is only going to hurt me, are all instances of a fight that I carry within me, a flare deep in my heart that needs to be extinguished before it goes up in flames, leaving only ashes behind.

3:38Many of us, nowadays, seem to believe that a happy future is something impossible to achieve. While such concerns must be taken very seriously,they are not invincible. They can be overcome when we don’t lock our door to the outside world. Happiness can only be discovered as a gift of harmony between the whole and each single component. Even science – and you know it better than I do – points to an understanding of reality as a place where every element connects and interacts with everything else.

4:27And this brings me to my second message. How wonderful would it be if the growth of scientific and technological innovation would come along with more equality and social inclusion. How wonderful would it be, while we discover faraway planets, to rediscover the needs of the brothers and sisters orbiting around us. How wonderful would it be if solidarity, this beautiful and, at times, inconvenient word, were not simply reduced to social work, and became, instead, the default attitude in political, economic and scientific choices, as well as in the relationships among individuals, peoples and countries. Only by educating people to a true solidarity will we be able to overcome the “culture of waste,” which doesn’t concern only food and goods but, first and foremost, the people who are cast aside by our techno-economic systems which, without even realizing it, are now putting products at their core, instead of people.

6:08Solidarity is a term that many wish to erase from the dictionary. Solidarity, however, is not an automatic mechanism. It cannot be programmed or controlled. It is a free response born from the heart of each and everyone. Yes, a free response! When one realizes that life, even in the middle of so many contradictions, is a gift, that love is the source and the meaning of life, how can they withhold their urge to do good to another fellow being?

6:50In order to do good, we need memory, we need courage and we need creativity. And I know that TED gathers many creative minds. Yes, love does require a creative, concrete and ingenious attitude. Good intentions and conventional formulas, so often used to appease our conscience, are not enough. Let us help each other, all together, to remember that the other is not a statistic or a number. The other has a face. The “you” is always a real presence, a person to take care of.

7:52There is a parable Jesus told to help us understand the difference between those who’d rather not be bothered and those who take care of the other. I am sure you have heard it before. It is the Parable of the Good Samaritan. When Jesus was asked: “Who is my neighbor?” – namely, “Who should I take care of?” – he told this story, the story of a man who had been assaulted, robbed, beaten and abandoned along a dirt road. Upon seeing him, a priest and a Levite, two very influential people of the time, walked past him without stopping to help. After a while, a Samaritan, a very much despised ethnicity at the time, walked by. Seeing the injured man lying on the ground, he did not ignore him as if he weren’t even there.Instead, he felt compassion for this man, which compelled him to act in a very concrete manner. He poured oil and wine on the wounds of the helpless man, brought him to a hostel and paid out of his pocket for him to be assisted.

9:26The story of the Good Samaritan is the story of today’s humanity. People’s paths are riddled with suffering, as everything is centered around money, and things, instead of people. And often there is this habit, by people who call themselves “respectable,” of not taking care of the others, thus leaving behind thousands of human beings, or entire populations, on the side of the road. Fortunately, there are also those who are creating a new world by taking care of the other, even out of their own pockets. Mother Teresa actually said: “One cannot love, unless it is at their own expense.”

10:26We have so much to do, and we must do it together. But how can we do that with all the evil we breathe every day? Thank God, no system can nullify our desire to open up to the good, to compassion and to our capacity to react against evil, all of which stem from deep within our hearts. Now you might tell me, “Sure, these are beautiful words, but I am not the Good Samaritan, nor Mother Teresa of Calcutta.” On the contrary: we are precious, each and every one of us. Each and every one of us is irreplaceable in the eyes of God. Through the darkness of today’s conflicts, each and every one of us can become a bright candle, a reminder that light will overcome darkness, and never the other way around.

11:27To Christians, the future does have a name, and its name is Hope. Feeling hopeful does not mean to be optimistically naïve and ignore the tragedy humanity is facing. Hope is the virtue of a heart that doesn’t lock itself into darkness, that doesn’t dwell on the past, does not simply get by in the present, but is able to see a tomorrow. Hope is the door that opens onto the future. Hope is a humble, hidden seed of life that, with time, will develop into a large tree. It is like some invisible yeast that allows the whole dough to grow, that brings flavor to all aspects of life. And it can do so much, because a tiny flicker of light that feeds on hope is enough to shatter the shield of darkness. A single individual is enough for hope to exist,and that individual can be you. And then there will be another “you,” and another “you,” and it turns into an “us.” And so, does hope begin when we have an “us?” No. Hope began with one “you.” When there is an “us,” there begins a revolution.

13:16The third message I would like to share today is, indeed, about revolution: the revolution of tenderness. And what is tenderness? It is the love that comes close and becomes real. It is a movement that starts from our heart and reaches the eyes, the ears and the hands. Tenderness means to use our eyes to see the other, our ears to hear the other, to listen to the children, the poor, those who are afraid of the future. To listen also to the silent cry of our common home, of our sick and polluted earth. Tenderness means to use our hands and our heart to comfort the other, to take care of those in need.

14:13Tenderness is the language of the young children, of those who need the other. A child’s love for mom and dad grows through their touch, their gaze, their voice, their tenderness. I like when I hear parents talk to their babies, adapting to the little child, sharing the same level of communication. This is tenderness: being on the same level as the other. God himself descended into Jesus to be on our level. This is the same path the Good Samaritan took. This is the path that Jesus himself took. He lowered himself, he lived his entire human existence practicing the real, concrete language of love.

15:23Yes, tenderness is the path of choice for the strongest, most courageous men and women. Tenderness is not weakness; it is fortitude. It is the path of solidarity, the path of humility. Please, allow me to say it loud and clear: the more powerful you are, the more your actions will have an impact on people, the more responsible you are to act humbly. If you don’t, your power will ruin you, and you will ruin the other. There is a saying in Argentina:“Power is like drinking gin on an empty stomach.” You feel dizzy, you get drunk, you lose your balance, and you will end up hurting yourself and those around you, if you don’t connect your power with humility and tenderness. Through humility and concrete love, on the other hand, power – the highest, the strongest one – becomes a service, a force for good.

16:52The future of humankind isn’t exclusively in the hands of politicians, of great leaders, of big companies. Yes, they do hold an enormous responsibility. But the future is, most of all, in the hands of those people who recognize the other as a “you” and themselves as part of an “us.” We all need each other. And so, please, think of me as well with tenderness, so that I can fulfill the task I have been given for the good of the other, of each and every one, of all of you, of all of us. Thank you.

I See You – I’m Here

You may recall recently I was in Costa Rica at the #AwesomenessFest by Mindvalley. Towards the end of the most amazing week of diving into one’s self we had the ending ceremony coming… Already no one wanted it to end, we were shaken enough by that emotion and all that we had been through (like the 1200 tpm cycle of the washing machine – ready to hang quietly to dry in the breeze) and we all 300 odd of us felt good in each others energy space.

So Mia, the hostest, told us we would do one last thing before parting – ‘You have seen in Avatar when they greet each other they say touching the greeted person ‘ I see you’ well the greeted partner responds with ‘I am here.’ Now after we put the chairs away you shall be doing this will every one, walk quickly and meet an new partner…


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Now you can see in the photo, people hug differently, some cry – I was balling my eyes out…. Some smile, however you react there it was a touching moment!

So what I say to you is that no matter if you hear from me constantly or occasionally I SEE YOU and for those who are ready to reply – do so. It will be with great pleasure to connect 🙂

We all need to be noticed and seen, I personally love to notice the ones that generally don’t get seen, the timid ones or even the bright ones that shine because no one will talk to them either! I am here for you and all you have to do is reach out.

To be part of a community is a very good thing – being in a tribe is even bigger and more of a social necessity for us humans. I have the good fortune to be in one of each. to be part of the Awesomeness Tribe you have to earn your stars as it were, and to be part of the SFM community you need a personal invite. I figure if you are still reading that I shall invite you by clicking here.

Enjoy the invite and glad to hear from you soon 😉

Journeys, How To Know IF….

You know if you are on a journey, or do you?

It can not be stressed enough that to work on yourself is gold, priceless. Some people will tell you that it is egocentric, selfish, uncaring even but they are the ones you should look at the most!

For we all start life on a journey,

  • As a nipper:
    • 0-2;
    • The terrible 2’s;
    • Toddler years;
    • The formative years pre-7’s
  • As a child
    • 7-10’s
    • Pre-teens
    • Teenager
  • Young adult
  • Young couple
  • Young family
    • Child bearing years
    • Motherhood
    • Career
  • Mid life
    • Life when children leave home
  • Retirement
  • Death

In the beginning you do just that work on yourself, as a baby, a nipper, a child and up to the young couple stage and then you stagnate! You no longer deem it necessary to work on your soul’s journey for the couple become one being as it were and decisions should be taken by the two of you together… So from a woman’s perspective (obviously!) things like buying  a simple hoover, which coffee? Toothpaste? The list is endless but what were simple tasks become monumental decisions and discussions of no importance to either some times, and so we forget to grow, we forget to plant seeds in our brain and we wither away…

Predisposition of soil for the mindseeds?

By this I mean in my own case for example I was already prone in my younger days to ‘flying off the handle’, loosing my temper and so on but on the other hand I was also constantly questioning myself as to how could I have said such a nasty thing? What pushed me into that state of mind? How come I lost it again?

So you see even though I was in need of ‘anger management classes’ as my sister would call it later on in life, I was aware somehow that I could analyse these phases and possibly control them.

As it happens I met bigger than me, more dominating than me and in the form of a timid, strong personality. So it was easy for him to dominate me, and me well I just let myself play stupid eh?!

How do you change paths when you are on the wrong road in your journey?

You get a mentor…

Simple as that, some one who has been there, and got out. At that moment you do not know that this is your predicament, and you sure as hell do not know what you are about to embark on!  But you somehow get a gut instinct that this is the one, like a lost soul you immediately get on, with a deep sense of respect, honour and love that will bind you forever. Forever being the time you are at that place, once you move on forever moves also to a new place 😉

If you have this feeling with anyone, I urge you to not let this person go lighly, easily. To ensure that this person stays in your immediate circle of friends, even if that is a group on Facebook, you follow them on Twitter, Instagram what ever link you have with this person, keep it – no matter what!

For me this person was Jay Kubassek 🙂 I knew the minute I read his stroy, his sales pages that he would set me free. At the time I knew not that I needed to be set free so the feeling I just took as ‘Oh I must have known Jay from a life before…’  But my whole being told me to not let this man out of my site!  I have had others since then some who I would have to listen to (as all I had of them was the audio that I had bought) and they also helped me through some thick walls, others I read and got the information that way, however you get what you need just listen to your body. Here is a little photoshop I did for you to show you the differences 😉


So if you too want a mentor of size that can transform your life so call me (0033613525725) and I’ll introduce you to Jay Kubassek 😉

Mind For Business, Basketball T-shirt anyone?

Here is a live demonstration of how I always get ideas, feelings whip out my iPhone – if I can find a nicer location and press record!

I am myself amazed by the change in my own emotions here – round 42 secs and from then on tis just smiles 😉